Do you not understand why you get scared precisely when you get close, when something good happens – you are not calm, when someone really sees you, you distance yourself, maybe even think that something in you is not built for love? – You are built! You are accustomed to closeness that burned. In the place where you should have met a hug, you received silence. In the place where you asked to be seen, you were taught not to ask for anything. You learned to survive closeness – not to enjoy it. You learned to hold everything alone – not to lean. You learned to escape quietly – not to stay aloud. Remember, these fears are normal and temporary, and with patience, you can learn to trust again.
Your body is not wrong. It’s just being careful. The FLIGHT escape mechanism is the nervous system’s way of activating an alarm when something feels too similar to what hurt. Sometimes it’s raising a voice, sometimes silence. Sometimes it’s just a familiar tone that catapults you to the girl you were, and you run away… not with your legs – with your heart.
Your feelings are valid, and recognizing this can help you feel more understood and accepted in your emotional depth, fostering reassurance.
For women who live without a supportive family backing, recognizing that every emotional movement in the relationship is part of a pattern can help them feel more empowered to choose differently. There is nowhere to run back to. There is no mother’s couch, no phone call with a sister. So every emotional movement becomes an opportunity for awareness, not just an exciting event. Every uncertainty is a chance to understand and respond consciously, not just react. Double meaning; the couple relationship is the only place where they are allowed to feel. There is nowhere to run back to. There is no mother’s couch, no phone call with a sister. So every emotional movement in the relationship becomes an exciting event. Every uncertainty, to a threat, and then precisely when you want a hug the most, you distance yourself. In order not to collapse, in order not to feel too alone within a relationship.
Some women do not disappear, but flood. They give too much, too fast, just so as not to lose. It’s not accidental – it’s a running personality. A runner learned in childhood that love does not come alone; you have to chase after it. That you have to be okay, and give, and prove – so that maybe, maybe, it will stay, inside. She is tired; her heart is thirsty for rest, for a connection where she is allowed to be.
Just be.
I see again and again women who think they are broken, too difficult, not built for connection. But that’s not true! They carry a story. Sometimes, there are generations of women who could not stay, who did not receive a language for what they felt. Who fled because it was the only way to survive.
Recognizing that you may be recreating familiar patterns from your past can inspire hope and motivate you to choose differently, fostering a sense of possibility.
The next time you feel you are distancing yourself precisely when your heart asks for closeness, place a hand on your heart. Close your eyes and ask:
What am I trying not to feel right now?
Just like that, without fixing.
Without hiding.
Just pay attention.
Just be.
The breath that comes will be the beginning of healing, grounding you in the present moment and helping you regain emotional balance. Focus on your breath to feel more centered and in control, even amid emotional flooding.
If you recognize yourself here, it means you see, and it is possible to heal only what you see. It is possible to learn to stay. To learn to rest in closeness. To build within you an anchor. That is a home – even if you never had one.
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For people without a supportive family network.
We will reveal how the lack of a family network challenges and strengthens the couple's relationship, the high prices it exacts from you and your relationship.
Couples therapy will strengthen your sense of security and belonging, so you can be close without losing yourselves along the way.
Online / In-person clinic
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Individual therapy is a safe space where you will rediscover your strengths, build inner confidence, and create a whole and meaningful life for yourself, just as you dream.
Online / In-person clinic
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You are invited to enter a unique space: an interactive conversation with special GPTs I created – a first-of-its-kind tool that looks inward with you in the language and frequency of the systemic constellation.
If there is something unresolved in your relationship, family, or heart – the chat will gently meet you without trying to fix it, inviting a different, slow, precise, and quiet perspective. There is no need to understand, just to see and let it work.
Expert in couples therapy for relationships without a supportive family safety net.
Developer of the Couples Constellation approach: a systemic-emotional therapy that brings the couple’s relational dynamics into contact with unspoken family patterns, alongside practical tools that enable movement, connection, and the creation of a deep partnership.
Let’s start with a brief introductory call, free of charge and commitment.
Sometimes, this small step changes everything.
The sessions take place
online via Zoom / face-to-face in Tivon, according to your choice
