How to choose a couples therapist so that they fit exactly your needs?
When a relationship reaches a crossroads, choosing to seek couples therapy is a brave act that shows you are willing to invest in your relationship.
But how do you choose the right person to go with you on this journey?
Your therapist are not just professionals - they are your partners in the process of healing and strengthening the relationship. Choosing them is a critical step in your journey to real change.
What are the important criteria in choosing a couples therapist?
1. An approach that fits your values and needs:
Couple therapists work with different approaches - emotion-based therapy, differentiation and appropriateness, family constellation, Gutman approach, imago and more.
It is important to choose a therapist whose approach matches your needs and the way you believe the relationship should be worked on. For example, if you experience profound communication challenges, you may prefer a therapist who deeply understands communication patterns in relationships.
2. Chemistry and trust:
Your relationship with the therapist is like a partnership. You should feel comfortable talking about the most sensitive, painful and intimate things in your relationship. Don't be afraid to ask yourself:
Do I feel that the therapist really listens to me?
Can I trust him/her enough to reveal myself?
3. Specific experience and expertise:
Every couple has a unique story. Therefore, it is important to choose a therapist who has experience working with couples who have experienced difficulties similar to yours. for example:
If you are dealing with infidelity, look for someone who specializes in rebuilding trust.
If you are new parents, make sure the therapist understands the special challenges of first-time parenthood.
4. Flexibility and accessibility:
Your life is busy, so it is important that the therapist offer you options that fit your schedule -
Online meetings, in the clinic or even hybrid meetings that combine the two.
In addition, pay attention to the location of the clinic and whether it is convenient for you to reach it.
Questions to ask at the introductory meeting:
The introductory meeting is an opportunity to check if the therapist is right for you. Don't be afraid to ask questions that are important to you, such as:
"What is your approach to couples therapy?"
"How long does a process take on average?"
"Have you worked with couples in a similar situation to ours?"
"What does a typical therapeutic process look like with you?"
"Are there tasks or exercises between sessions?"
Mistakes to avoid when choosing a couples therapist:
1. Selection from pressure:
Don't choose a therapist just because someone was immediately available. Give yourself time to check that the therapist
It really suits you.
2. Ignoring intuition:
If you feel that something 'doesn't sit well' in the first meeting, trust your feeling.
Find someone who feels right to you.
3. Choice based on economic considerations only:
Couples therapy is an investment. Price is an important consideration, but it should not be the only criterion.
How can I help you?
As a couples therapist with a differentiated approach and a family constellation, I bring an approach that deepens your understanding of yourself,
About your relationship and the patterns that govern your relationship.
Working with me is suitable for couples who are looking for emotional, experiential and effective therapy - one that doesn't just talk about the change,
but also creates it.
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