{"id":4358,"date":"2025-12-04T18:53:04","date_gmt":"2025-12-04T18:53:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/autotomy-how-childhood-trauma-affects-our-relationships-and-how-to-heal-together\/"},"modified":"2026-09-22T16:59:14","modified_gmt":"2026-09-22T16:59:14","slug":"autotomy-how-childhood-trauma-affects-our-relationships-and-how-to-heal-together","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/autotomy-how-childhood-trauma-affects-our-relationships-and-how-to-heal-together\/","title":{"rendered":"Autotomy in Relationships: How Much of Myself Do I Leave Behind to Preserve the Connection?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"4358\" class=\"elementor elementor-4358 elementor-2772\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3084c1d e-con-full e-flex e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"3084c1d\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" 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data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"theme-post-title.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Autotomy in Relationships: How Much of Myself Do I Leave Behind to Preserve the Connection?<\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-129aedba e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"129aedba\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3e4eb2df elementor-widget elementor-widget-theme-post-featured-image elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"3e4eb2df\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"theme-post-featured-image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2625\" height=\"2625\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/60.png\" class=\"attachment-full size-full wp-image-7717\" alt=\"\" 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\/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9c18897 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"9c18897\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d2aa108 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d2aa108\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"668\" data-end=\"923\">It is possible to be inside a relationship, to love, to function, to raise children, to make decisions together, and over the years to grow distant from myself. I give up a small thing so there won&#8217;t be a fight, I don&#8217;t say something important to me because now is not the time, I adjust myself, I swallow anger, I stop asking. I learn in advance what will be received and what will create tension.  <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"925\" data-end=\"1175\">Each compromise on its own can seem reasonable. A relationship requires consideration, flexibility, and the ability to make room for another person. The question changes when I look back and discover that I didn&#8217;t just give up the restaurant I wanted or the place I wanted to travel to.   <strong data-start=\"1122\" data-end=\"1175\">I gave up again and again parts of myself to preserve the connection.<\/strong><\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"1177\" data-end=\"1248\">The poem <a href=\"https:\/\/ofra-offer-oren.com\/2014\/12\/26\/%D7%95%D7%99%D7%A1%D7%9C%D7%91%D7%94-%D7%A9%D7%99%D7%9E%D7%91%D7%95%D7%A8%D7%A1%D7%A7%D7%94-%D7%97%D7%9C%D7%A7-%D7%A9%D7%A0%D7%99-%D7%90%D7%95%D7%98%D7%95%D7%98%D7%98%D7%95%D7%9E%D7%99%D7%94\/\">&#8220;Autotomy&#8221; by Wis\u0142awa Szymborska<\/a> gives this movement a particularly powerful image.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6113343 elementor-toc--content-ellipsis elementor-toc--minimized-on-desktop elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-global elementor-global-4630 elementor-global-752 elementor-widget-table-of-contents\" data-id=\"6113343\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;exclude_headings_by_selector&quot;:[],&quot;no_headings_message&quot;:&quot;\\u05dc\\u05d0 \\u05e0\\u05de\\u05e6\\u05d0\\u05d5 \\u05db\\u05d5\\u05ea\\u05e8\\u05d5\\u05ea \\u05d1\\u05e2\\u05de\\u05d5\\u05d3 \\u05d6\\u05d4&quot;,&quot;min_height&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;px&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:170,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;headings_by_tags&quot;:[&quot;h2&quot;,&quot;h3&quot;],&quot;min_height_tablet&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;vh&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;min_height_mobile&quot;:{&quot;unit&quot;:&quot;vh&quot;,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;sizes&quot;:[]},&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInUp&quot;,&quot;minimized_on&quot;:&quot;desktop&quot;,&quot;marker_view&quot;:&quot;numbers&quot;,&quot;minimize_box&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"table-of-contents.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__header\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-toc__header-title\">\n\t\t\t\tArticle Navigation\t\t\t<\/h4>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__toggle-button elementor-toc__toggle-button--expand\" role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" aria-controls=\"elementor-toc__6113343\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-label=\"Open table of contents\"><svg aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"e-font-icon-svg e-fas-chevron-down\" viewBox=\"0 0 448 512\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\"><path d=\"M207.029 381.476L12.686 187.132c-9.373-9.373-9.373-24.569 0-33.941l22.667-22.667c9.357-9.357 24.522-9.375 33.901-.04L224 284.505l154.745-154.021c9.379-9.335 24.544-9.317 33.901.04l22.667 22.667c9.373 9.373 9.373 24.569 0 33.941L240.971 381.476c-9.373 9.372-24.569 9.372-33.942 0z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__toggle-button elementor-toc__toggle-button--collapse\" role=\"button\" tabindex=\"0\" aria-controls=\"elementor-toc__6113343\" aria-expanded=\"true\" aria-label=\"Close table of contents\"><svg aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"e-font-icon-svg e-fas-chevron-up\" viewBox=\"0 0 448 512\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\"><path d=\"M240.971 130.524l194.343 194.343c9.373 9.373 9.373 24.569 0 33.941l-22.667 22.667c-9.357 9.357-24.522 9.375-33.901.04L224 227.495 69.255 381.516c-9.379 9.335-24.544 9.317-33.901-.04l-22.667-22.667c-9.373-9.373-9.373-24.569 0-33.941L207.03 130.525c9.372-9.373 24.568-9.373 33.941-.001z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div id=\"elementor-toc__6113343\" class=\"elementor-toc__body\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-toc__spinner-container\">\n\t\t\t\t<svg class=\"elementor-toc__spinner eicon-animation-spin e-font-icon-svg e-eicon-loading\" aria-hidden=\"true\" viewBox=\"0 0 1000 1000\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\"><path d=\"M500 975V858C696 858 858 696 858 500S696 142 500 142 142 304 142 500H25C25 237 238 25 500 25S975 237 975 500 763 975 500 975Z\"><\/path><\/svg>\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-918aa9f elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"918aa9f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInUp&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2 dir=\"auto\" data-section-id=\"1fmu4zz\" data-start=\"1250\" data-end=\"1286\">Autotomy: Parting from a Piece to Survive<\/h2><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"1288\" data-end=\"1488\">Autotomy is a biological phenomenon in which certain animals shed or detach a part of their body in response to danger. Szymborska took this phenomenon into poetry and turned it into a shattering human image of survival at the cost of losing part of the self. <\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e58a0c0 e-con-full e-flex elementor-invisible e-con e-child\" data-id=\"e58a0c0\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInUp&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1f8b56d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1f8b56d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h3 class=\"PDq2pG_selectionAnchorContainer\" dir=\"auto\" data-section-id=\"13rc0m3\" data-start=\"1490\" data-end=\"1522\">Autotomy \/ Wis\u0142awa Szymborska<\/h3><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"1524\" data-end=\"1847\">In danger, the sea cucumber divides itself in two:<br data-start=\"1557\" data-end=\"1560\" \/>one self it abandons as prey to the world,<br data-start=\"1594\" data-end=\"1597\" \/>with the other it flees.<br data-start=\"1614\" data-end=\"1617\" \/>Divided suddenly into loss and rescue,<br data-start=\"1641\" data-end=\"1644\" \/>into what was and what will be.<br data-start=\"1664\" data-end=\"1667\" \/>In the middle of the sea cucumber&#8217;s body an abyss opens<br data-start=\"1702\" data-end=\"1705\" \/>whose two shores are immediately foreign.<br data-start=\"1726\" data-end=\"1729\" \/>On one shore death, on the other life<br data-start=\"1755\" data-end=\"1758\" \/>here despair, there hope.<br data-start=\"1778\" data-end=\"1781\" \/>To die to the necessary extent without exaggerating,<br data-start=\"1811\" data-end=\"1814\" \/>to grow as much as possible from the remnant that survived.<\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"1849\" data-end=\"2056\">We know how to divide, oh yes, we too,<br data-start=\"1888\" data-end=\"1891\" \/>but only into body and torn whisper&#8230;<br data-start=\"1918\" data-end=\"1921\" \/>here a heavy heart, there non omnis moriar [I shall not wholly die]<br data-start=\"1967\" data-end=\"1970\" \/>only three small words like three flight feathers<br data-start=\"2010\" data-end=\"2013\" \/>the abyss does not cross us,<br data-start=\"2035\" data-end=\"2038\" \/>the abyss surrounds us.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5b38d44 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5b38d44\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInUp&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"PDq2pG_selectionAnchorContainer\" dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"2058\" data-end=\"2338\">I read this poem as a couples therapist and think about people who learned already in childhood that a connection might require them to diminish parts of themselves. This is not necessarily a conscious decision. A child learns the boundaries of connection from what happens when they bring themselves into it: when they are angry, needy, resistant, different, disappointing, or asking for something the adults around them do not have the capacity to give.  <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"2340\" data-end=\"2469\">From these experiences a deep learning about connection can develop: which parts of me are received here, and which parts I should put away to continue feeling I belong.<\/p><h2 dir=\"auto\" data-section-id=\"18s95ej\" data-start=\"2471\" data-end=\"2516\">The Girl Who Learned Which Part of Her to Leave Outside<\/h2><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"2518\" data-end=\"2716\">Children are dependent on connection with the adults raising them. Their options are limited. They cannot choose a different family or conduct an adult conversation about boundaries, needs, and reciprocity. So they learn to adapt themselves to the reality in which they are growing.   <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"2718\" data-end=\"3030\">A girl can learn that her anger is received with difficulty at home, and gradually stop showing it. A boy can experience his needs as a burden and become independent long before his time. Another girl may discover that the way to keep the peace is to be the one who understands everyone. Thus the voice, the anger, the spontaneity, the need, the boundary, or the desire to be cared for and not only to care can receive less and less room.   <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"3032\" data-end=\"3379\">These adaptations may be wise ways to preserve connection within the reality in which the child is dependent on the people around them. The child grows and the reality changes, while the way they learned to preserve connection through can remain.  <a class=\"decorated-link\" href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/who-taught-you-thats-what-love-looks-like-7-sentences-that-can-transform-your-relationship\/?utm_source=chatgpt.com\" target=\"_new\" rel=\"noopener\" data-start=\"3202\" data-end=\"3379\">About the way we learn already in our first family what love is supposed to look like and what we are required to do to remain within it I wrote here.<\/a><\/p><h2 dir=\"auto\" data-section-id=\"1g60omm\" data-start=\"3381\" data-end=\"3417\">When Autotomy Becomes an Image for the Relationship<\/h2><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"3419\" data-end=\"3594\">Inside a romantic relationship we are again facing a person who is very important to us. Their opinion matters, their love matters, and closeness to them matters. Precisely because of this, the familiar movement of self-adjustment to preserve the connection can return.   <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"3419\" data-end=\"3594\">I know I want to say something and immediately check how he will receive it. I am angry and start explaining to myself why I actually have no reason to be angry. I want to set a boundary and already see the disappointment on her face. I need something and phrase the request so carefully that it is almost impossible to hear what I asked for.   <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"3849\" data-end=\"3988\">I can also be hurt, and instead of saying I was hurt become efficient, matter-of-fact, and distant. From the outside there can be a very quiet relationship here. From the inside I am shrinking.  <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"3990\" data-end=\"4123\"><strong data-start=\"3990\" data-end=\"4123\">Through Szymborska&#8217;s image it is possible to think about these moments as autotomy within the connection: the attempt to preserve what is dear to me by giving up parts of myself. <\/strong>This is not a clinical diagnosis. It is a way to look at a movement that occurs in certain people within significant relationships. <\/p><h2 dir=\"auto\" data-section-id=\"bxctqc\" data-start=\"4218\" data-end=\"4258\">Not Every Compromise in a Relationship Is Giving Up Myself<\/h2><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"4260\" data-end=\"4461\">A relationship requires compromises. Two people cannot always get exactly what they want. I can choose to go with you to a restaurant you love, change plans, take into account a difficult period you are going through, or decide that this time your need will take priority.  <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"4463\" data-end=\"4695\">The difference is also in what happens to me inside the compromise. Am I choosing it? Does my desire continue to be worthy of space even when I chose not to fulfill it? Can I tell you what I want and bear the possibility that you will not agree? Is there room in the connection also for parts of me that are not comfortable for you?    <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"4697\" data-end=\"4828\">When I give up from choice, I am still present inside the decision. When I erase the desire even before I dared to bring it to the connection, I am already paying a different price. <\/p><h2 dir=\"auto\" data-section-id=\"v1gerw\" data-start=\"4830\" data-end=\"4876\">The Relationship Can Manage Perfectly Around My Disappearance<\/h2><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"4878\" data-end=\"5106\">This is one of the painful points in my view. A relationship system can organize itself around the fact that one partner gives up again and again parts of themselves. One decides and the other flows, one brings a need and the other adapts, one says what bothers him and the other already knows how to prevent the next confrontation.  <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"5108\" data-end=\"5367\">Over time both partners know their roles well. What began as a way to preserve the connection can become part of its structure. And then the person who adapted for years begins to bring more of themselves. Suddenly he has an opinion, she says no, he wants something else, and she is no longer willing to carry alone something she carried for years.   <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"5108\" data-end=\"5367\">When this diminishment has already become part of the relationship, another struggle can also appear: I know I feel bad inside the connection, and yet I don&#8217;t know if I want or am able to leave it. I wrote about this complex place in <a class=\"decorated-link\" href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/in-a-toxic-relationship-heres-how-to-feel-worthy-again-from-the-inside\/?utm_source=chatgpt.com\" target=\"_new\" rel=\"noopener\" data-start=\"1168\" data-end=\"1282\">I Know I Feel Bad in the Relationship, So Why Don&#8217;t I Still Know Whether to Leave?<\/a>. <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"5369\" data-end=\"5595\">This change affects the entire relationship system. The partner may experience it as undermining the familiar arrangement and ask <em data-start=\"5461\" data-end=\"5475\">&#8220;What happened to you?&#8221;<\/em> or <em data-start=\"5479\" data-end=\"5510\">&#8220;You never had a problem with this before.&#8221;<\/em> And it may be that I truly never said I had a problem with it. <strong data-start=\"5561\" data-end=\"5595\">That still doesn&#8217;t mean I didn&#8217;t.<\/strong> <\/p><h2 dir=\"auto\" data-section-id=\"3dz3ts\" data-start=\"5597\" data-end=\"5624\">The Price of Being Easy to Love<\/h2><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"5626\" data-end=\"5892\">There are people who over the years have become very easy to love. They read the room well, know when to speak and when to be silent, sense when someone else is contracting and know how to soothe, adjust, understand, and give up. These can be highly developed interpersonal abilities, and they can also be part of a way I learned to preserve connection through.  <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"5894\" data-end=\"6082\">The question that interests me is what happens to me while I am using them. If in order to feel secure in love I need to always be comfortable, calm, considerate, strong, or not too needy, I may continue within the relationship an old deal:  <br><em data-start=\"6084\" data-end=\"6128\"><strong data-start=\"6085\" data-end=\"6127\">&#8220;I will leave part of me outside, and you will stay.&#8221;<\/strong><\/em><\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"6130\" data-end=\"6465\">For someone living without supportive family backing, the possibility of undermining the romantic relationship can take on additional weight. When the relationship is also a central source of home and belonging, the need to preserve it may intensify the tendency to adjust myself.  <a class=\"decorated-link\" href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/my-partner-cannot-be-the-family-i-never-had\/?utm_source=chatgpt.com\" target=\"_new\" rel=\"noopener\" data-start=\"6313\" data-end=\"6465\">About the burden created when a partner becomes the central source of belonging and security I wrote here.<\/a><\/p><h2 dir=\"auto\" data-section-id=\"zh7b4u\" data-start=\"6467\" data-end=\"6489\">Bringing Myself Back to the Connection<\/h2><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"6491\" data-end=\"6678\">Here differentiation becomes significant for me. It allows me to take into account the person I love and continue to be in connection also with myself. It does not say that every desire of mine must be fulfilled, and it also does not promise that my partner will love every part I bring.  <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"6680\" data-end=\"6877\">Differentiation allows me to know what I feel, what I want, what matters to me, and what my boundary is, and to bring all of these to the connection even when your response is different from the one I hoped to receive. This is significant work for someone who learned that connection is preserved through adjustment. <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"6879\" data-end=\"7233\">When I begin to give more room to parts I previously diminished, I may also meet the thing I tried to protect myself from: the possibility that you will be angry, that you will be disappointed, that you will not understand me, or that you will want something else. I can see you angry and stay with myself, hear that you are disappointed and check myself without rushing to erase my desire, and be close to you without handing you the responsibility to decide who I need to be to be worthy of love.  <a class=\"decorated-link\" href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/how-to-maintain-yourself-in-a-relationship-and-deepen-the-connection-the-complete-guide-to-differentiation-in-relationships\/?utm_source=chatgpt.com\" target=\"_new\" rel=\"noopener\" data-start=\"7235\" data-end=\"7495\">I wrote here about the possibility of being in deep relationship with another person and continuing to hold myself within it as well.<\/a><\/p><h2 dir=\"auto\" data-section-id=\"1eh9s4t\" data-start=\"7497\" data-end=\"7528\">The Question Is Not Only Whether I Am Loved<\/h2><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"7530\" data-end=\"7721\">In couples therapy it is possible to focus on the question of whether the partners love each other. I am also interested in another question: <strong data-start=\"7616\" data-end=\"7655\">Who can I be inside this love?<\/strong> Is there room for my voice, my boundary, my anger, my need, and my difference? <\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"7723\" data-end=\"8048\">I want to check whether I can bring more of myself to the connection even when this presence requires both of us to meet something new. This question is especially significant for someone who learned to preserve connection through self-diminishment.  <a class=\"decorated-link\" href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/why-is-it-specifically-in-relationships-that-unhealed-childhood-emotional-wounds-are-triggered\/\" target=\"_new\" rel=\"noopener\" data-start=\"7896\" data-end=\"8048\">About the connection between romantic closeness and the old places that awaken precisely facing the person we love I wrote here.<\/a><\/p><h2 dir=\"auto\" data-section-id=\"v93suw\" data-start=\"8050\" data-end=\"8075\">To Grow from the Remnant That Survived<\/h2><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"8077\" data-end=\"8318\">I return at the end to Szymborska and to the possibility <em data-start=\"8117\" data-end=\"8154\">&#8220;to grow as much as possible from the remnant that survived.&#8221;<\/em> For me as a couples therapist, this is perhaps the most important movement this poem allows us to look at: what once helped me preserve myself and the connection does not have to determine how much of me will be present in every connection I build going forward.<\/p><p dir=\"auto\" data-start=\"8320\" data-end=\"8553\">I can honor the adaptations I learned to make. They tell something about the way I preserved myself within the reality that was. In adulthood I have more options, more choice, and more capacity to bear the fact that a person I love may be different from me, be angry at me, or be disappointed in me. And then the question changes. 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class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/\u05d8\u05d9\u05e4\u05d5\u05dc-\u05d6\u05d5\u05d2\u05d9.svg\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/\u05d8\u05d9\u05e4\u05d5\u05dc-\u05d6\u05d5\u05d2\u05d9.svg\" alt=\"\u05d8\u05d9\u05e4\u05d5\u05dc \u05d6\u05d5\u05d2\u05d9\" \/><\/div>                    <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__title\">Couples Therapy<\/div>                 <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__icon\">Reconnect<\/div>           <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__description\"><p>+<\/p><\/div>        <\/div>      <\/div>    <\/div>      \n    <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel ue-flip-box__panel--back\" inert>\n      <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel--back-overlay\"><\/div>\n            <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__wrapper\">\n        <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__content\">\n                    <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__title\">Couples Therapy<\/div>                 <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__icon\"><\/div>           <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__description\"><p>For people without a supportive family network.<br>We will reveal how the lack of a family network challenges and strengthens the couple's relationship, the high prices it exacts from you and your relationship.<br>Couples therapy will strengthen your sense of security and belonging, so you can be close without losing yourselves along the way.<br><strong><span style=\"color: #dd7c6c;\">Online \/ In-person clinic<\/span><\/strong><\/p><\/div>          <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__button\"><a href=\"#elementor-action%3Aaction%3Dpopup%3Aopen%26settings%3DeyJpZCI6IjEwMjciLCJ0b2dnbGUiOmZhbHNlfQ%3D%3D\" class=\"ue_btn\" >let's meet<\/a><\/div>                  <\/div>      <\/div>    <\/div>    \n  <\/div>      \n        \n<\/div>\n<!-- end Flip Box -->\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-57bbf42 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-ucaddon_flip_box\" data-id=\"57bbf42\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInUp&quot;,&quot;_animation_delay&quot;:200}\" data-widget_type=\"ucaddon_flip_box.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\n<!-- start Flip Box -->\n\n<style>\/* widget: Flip Box *\/\n\n\/* elementor container support *\/\n.e-con-inner>.elementor-widget-ucaddon_flip_box, .e-con>.elementor-widget-ucaddon_flip_box {\n    width: var(--container-widget-width);\n    --flex-grow: var(--container-widget-flex-grow);\n}\n\n#uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42 .ue-flip-box__panel.ue-flip-box__panel--front,\n#uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42 .ue-flip-box__panel.ue-flip-box__panel--back {\n    backface-visibility: hidden;\n    -webkit-backface-visibility: hidden; \n}\n\n#uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42 .ue-flip-box__container .ue-flip-box__panel--back {\n  z-index: -1;\n}\n\n#uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42 .ue-flip-box__container .ue-flip-box__panel--front {\n  z-index: 1;\n}\n\n#uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42 .ue-flip-box__container.uc-show .ue-flip-box__panel--back {\n  z-index: 1;\n}\n\n#uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42 .ue-flip-box__container.uc-show .ue-flip-box__panel--front {\n  z-index: -1;\n}\n\n#uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42 .ue-flip-box__panel__wrapper{\n  pointer-events: all;\n}\n\n#uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42 .ue-flip-box__panel--back .ue_btn{\n\tdisplay: inline-block;\n}\n\n\t\n\t#uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42 .ue-flip-box__container, #uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42 .ue-flip-box__panel {\n      overflow: hidden;\n    }\t\n\n\n\n#uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42 .ue-flip-box__panel--front-overlay, \n#uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42 .ue-flip-box__panel--back-overlay{\n  position:absolute;\n  top:0;\n  bottom:0;\n  right:0;\n  left:0;\n  z-index:-1;\n}\n\n\n\n\n\n<\/style>\n\n\n<div id=\"uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42\" class=\"ue-flip-box\" data-id=\"uc_flip_box_elementor_57bbf42\" data-closeonbody='false'>\n  \n    \t<div class=\"ue-flip-box__container uc-hide ue-fade ue-flip-box__container--hover\" tabindex=\"0\">\n      \n    <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel ue-flip-box__panel--front\">\n      <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel--front-overlay\"><\/div>\n            <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__wrapper\">\n        <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__content\">\n          <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__image\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/\u05d8\u05d9\u05e4\u05d5\u05dc-\u05e4\u05e8\u05d8\u05e0\u05d9.svg\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/\u05d8\u05d9\u05e4\u05d5\u05dc-\u05e4\u05e8\u05d8\u05e0\u05d9.svg\" alt=\"\u05d8\u05d9\u05e4\u05d5\u05dc \u05e4\u05e8\u05d8\u05e0\u05d9\" \/><\/div>                    <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__title\">Individual Therapy<\/div>                 <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__icon\">Loving yourself<\/div>           <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__description\"><p>+<\/p><\/div>        <\/div>      <\/div>    <\/div>      \n    <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel ue-flip-box__panel--back\" inert>\n      <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel--back-overlay\"><\/div>\n            <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__wrapper\">\n        <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__content\">\n                    <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__title\">Individual Therapy<\/div>                 <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__icon\"><\/div>           <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__description\"><p> Individual therapy is a safe space where you will rediscover your strengths, build inner confidence, and create a whole and meaningful life for yourself, just as you dream.<br><span style=\"color: #53c194;\"><strong>Online \/ In-person clinic<\/strong><\/span><\/p><\/div>          <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__button\"><a href=\"#elementor-action%3Aaction%3Dpopup%3Aopen%26settings%3DeyJpZCI6IjEwMjciLCJ0b2dnbGUiOmZhbHNlfQ%3D%3D\" class=\"ue_btn\" >let's meet<\/a><\/div>                  <\/div>      <\/div>    <\/div>    \n  <\/div>      \n        \n<\/div>\n<!-- end Flip Box -->\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a82de24 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-ucaddon_flip_box\" data-id=\"a82de24\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInUp&quot;,&quot;_animation_delay&quot;:400}\" data-widget_type=\"ucaddon_flip_box.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\n<!-- start Flip Box -->\n\n<style>\/* widget: Flip Box 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all;\n}\n\n#uc_flip_box_elementor_a82de24 .ue-flip-box__panel--back .ue_btn{\n\tdisplay: inline-block;\n}\n\n\t\n\t#uc_flip_box_elementor_a82de24 .ue-flip-box__container, #uc_flip_box_elementor_a82de24 .ue-flip-box__panel {\n      overflow: hidden;\n    }\t\n\n\n\n#uc_flip_box_elementor_a82de24 .ue-flip-box__panel--front-overlay, \n#uc_flip_box_elementor_a82de24 .ue-flip-box__panel--back-overlay{\n  position:absolute;\n  top:0;\n  bottom:0;\n  right:0;\n  left:0;\n  z-index:-1;\n}\n\n\n\n\n\n<\/style>\n\n\n<div id=\"uc_flip_box_elementor_a82de24\" class=\"ue-flip-box\" data-id=\"uc_flip_box_elementor_a82de24\" data-closeonbody='false'>\n  \n    \t<div class=\"ue-flip-box__container uc-hide ue-fade ue-flip-box__container--hover\" tabindex=\"0\">\n      \n    <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel ue-flip-box__panel--front\">\n      <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel--front-overlay\"><\/div>\n            <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__wrapper\">\n        <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__content\">\n          <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/chat-pic-yellow-2.svg\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/chat-pic-yellow-2.svg\" alt=\"chat pic yellow\" width=\"416\" height=\"304\" \/><\/div>                    <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__title\">Constellation Chat<\/div>                 <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__icon\">A space for self-exploration and precision<\/div>           <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__description\"><p>+<\/p><\/div>        <\/div>      <\/div>    <\/div>      \n    <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel ue-flip-box__panel--back\" inert>\n      <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel--back-overlay\"><\/div>\n            <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__wrapper\">\n        <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__content\">\n                    <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__title\">Constellation Chat<\/div>                 <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__icon\"><\/div>           <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__description\"><p>You are invited to enter a unique space: an interactive conversation with special GPTs I created \u2013 a first-of-its-kind tool that looks inward with you in the language and frequency of the systemic constellation.<br>If there is something unresolved in your relationship, family, or heart \u2013 the chat will gently meet you without trying to fix it, inviting a different, slow, precise, and quiet perspective. There is no need to understand, just to see and let it work.<\/p><\/div>          <div class=\"ue-flip-box__panel__element ue-flip-box__button\"><a href=\"https:\/\/chatgpt.com\/g\/g-en9V52xEI-family-constellations-chat\" class=\"ue_btn\" >Start a conversation<\/a><\/div>                  <\/div>      <\/div>    <\/div>    \n  <\/div>      \n        \n<\/div>\n<!-- end Flip Box -->\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-85506f7 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"85506f7\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2582145 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-template\" data-id=\"2582145\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInUp&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"template.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-template\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"container\" data-elementor-id=\"4632\" class=\"elementor elementor-4632 elementor-704 elementor-704\" data-elementor-post-type=\"elementor_library\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-58cb7e75 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"58cb7e75\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2790be99 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"2790be99\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4776fd2f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4776fd2f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Nice to meet you, I'm Sivan Avni<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-23d90339 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"23d90339\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Expert in couples therapy for relationships without a supportive family safety net.<br>Developer of the Couples Constellation approach: a systemic-emotional therapy that brings the couple\u2019s relational dynamics into contact with unspoken family patterns, alongside practical tools that enable movement, connection, and the creation of a deep partnership.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7481a315 elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"7481a315\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a 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.owl-next.disabled {\n   display: none;\n}\n\n<\/style>\n\n<div class=\"uc_overlay_image_carousel\" id=\"uc_post_carousel_elementor_a4c9b37-wrapper\">\n  <div class=\"uc_carousel owl-carousel owl-theme uc-items-wrapper  uc-remote-parent \" data-custom-sethtml=\"true\"  data-id=\"\" id=\"uc_post_carousel_elementor_a4c9b37\"  data-remoteid='second' data-widgetname='Post Carousel'>\n    <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_container_holder uc_carousel_item ue-item\">\n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_placeholder elementor-animation-float\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/the-children-are-back-to-their-school-routine-youre-back-to-arguing-about-them\/\" style=\"display:block;\">         \n          <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/writing.png\"  src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/writing.png\" alt=\"writing\" width=\"2625\" height=\"2625\" alt=\"writing\" title=\"writing\"> \n        \t\n        <div class=\"ue_pos_carousel_image_overlay\"><\/div>\n      <\/a>          <\/div>  \n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content\" >\n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content_holder\">\n\n                \n          <div class=\"ue-grid-item-category\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/category\/blog\/family-counseling\/\">Family Counseling<\/a>\n          <\/div>        \t\n                           \n\n                  <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/the-children-are-back-to-their-school-routine-youre-back-to-arguing-about-them\/\">            <div class=\"uc_post_title\">The children are back to their school routine. You're back to arguing about them<\/div>\n          <\/a>                  \n\n        <div class=\"ue-meta-data\">\n                                          \n                                \n\n          \n          \n          \n                     \n\n            \n\n        <\/div>\n        <div class=\"uc_paragraph\" >She thinks the child needs flexibility. He thinks it's time to set a boundary. Both love...<\/div>\t\t      <\/div>\n          <\/div>    \n    \n<\/div>\n<div class=\"uc_image_carousel_container_holder uc_carousel_item ue-item\">\n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_placeholder elementor-animation-float\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/your-family-is-always-there-mine-isnt-the-couple-gap-no-one-talks-about\/\" style=\"display:block;\">         \n          <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/\u05d6\u05d5\u05d2-\u05e2\u05dd-\u05d4\u05d5\u05e8\u05d9\u05dd-\u05d0\u05d3\u05d5\u05de\u05d9\u05dd.png\"  src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/\u05d6\u05d5\u05d2-\u05e2\u05dd-\u05d4\u05d5\u05e8\u05d9\u05dd-\u05d0\u05d3\u05d5\u05de\u05d9\u05dd.png\" alt=\"\u05d6\u05d5\u05d2 \u05e2\u05dd \u05d4\u05d5\u05e8\u05d9\u05dd \u05d0\u05d3\u05d5\u05de\u05d9\u05dd\" width=\"1357\" height=\"1348\" alt=\"\u05d6\u05d5\u05d2 \u05e2\u05dd \u05d4\u05d5\u05e8\u05d9\u05dd \u05d0\u05d3\u05d5\u05de\u05d9\u05dd\" title=\"\u05d6\u05d5\u05d2 \u05e2\u05dd \u05d4\u05d5\u05e8\u05d9\u05dd \u05d0\u05d3\u05d5\u05de\u05d9\u05dd\"> \n        \t\n        <div class=\"ue_pos_carousel_image_overlay\"><\/div>\n      <\/a>          <\/div>  \n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content\" >\n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content_holder\">\n\n                \n          <div class=\"ue-grid-item-category\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/category\/blog\/relationship-differences\/\">Relationship Differences<\/a>\n          <\/div>        \t\n                           \n\n                  <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/your-family-is-always-there-mine-isnt-the-couple-gap-no-one-talks-about\/\">            <div class=\"uc_post_title\">Your family is always there. Mine isn't: the couple gap no one talks about<\/div>\n          <\/a>                  \n\n        <div class=\"ue-meta-data\">\n                                          \n                                \n\n          \n          \n          \n                     \n\n            \n\n        <\/div>\n        <div class=\"uc_paragraph\" >His family invites, helps, celebrates, and shows up. Her family isn't part of her life....<\/div>\t\t      <\/div>\n          <\/div>    \n    \n<\/div>\n<div class=\"uc_image_carousel_container_holder uc_carousel_item ue-item\">\n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_placeholder elementor-animation-float\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/if-you-wanted-me-youd-want-sex-when-the-gap-in-sexuality-becomes-a-test-of-love\/\" style=\"display:block;\">         \n          <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/120.jpg\"  src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/120.jpg\" alt=\"120\" width=\"940\" height=\"940\" alt=\"120\" title=\"120\"> \n        \t\n        <div class=\"ue_pos_carousel_image_overlay\"><\/div>\n      <\/a>          <\/div>  \n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content\" >\n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content_holder\">\n\n                \n          <div class=\"ue-grid-item-category\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/category\/blog\/relationship-differences\/\">Relationship Differences<\/a>\n          <\/div>        \t\n                           \n\n                  <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/if-you-wanted-me-youd-want-sex-when-the-gap-in-sexuality-becomes-a-test-of-love\/\">            <div class=\"uc_post_title\">\"If you wanted me, you'd want sex\": When the gap in sexuality becomes a test of love<\/div>\n          <\/a>                  \n\n        <div class=\"ue-meta-data\">\n                                          \n                                \n\n          \n          \n          \n                     \n\n            \n\n        <\/div>\n        <div class=\"uc_paragraph\" >When one wants more and the other wants less, the gap in sexual desire can quickly become...<\/div>\t\t      <\/div>\n          <\/div>    \n    \n<\/div>\n<div class=\"uc_image_carousel_container_holder uc_carousel_item ue-item\">\n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_placeholder elementor-animation-float\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/loving-you-without-rescuing-you-how-to-stay-close-without-taking-responsibility-for-your-life\/\" style=\"display:block;\">         \n          <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/83.jpg\"  src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/83.jpg\" alt=\"Couple sitting together - loving without rescuing in relationships\" width=\"940\" height=\"940\" alt=\"Couple sitting together - loving without rescuing in relationships\" title=\"83\"> \n        \t\n        <div class=\"ue_pos_carousel_image_overlay\"><\/div>\n      <\/a>          <\/div>  \n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content\" >\n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content_holder\">\n\n                \n          <div class=\"ue-grid-item-category\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/category\/blog\/intimacy\/\">Intimacy<\/a>\n          <\/div>        \t\n                           \n\n                  <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/loving-you-without-rescuing-you-how-to-stay-close-without-taking-responsibility-for-your-life\/\">            <div class=\"uc_post_title\">Loving You Without Rescuing You: How to Stay Close Without Taking Responsibility for Your Partner's Life<\/div>\n          <\/a>                  \n\n        <div class=\"ue-meta-data\">\n                                          \n                                \n\n          \n          \n          \n                     \n\n            \n\n        <\/div>\n        <div class=\"uc_paragraph\" >When we love, it's natural to want to help, ease the burden, and fix things. But what...<\/div>\t\t      <\/div>\n          <\/div>    \n    \n<\/div>\n<div class=\"uc_image_carousel_container_holder uc_carousel_item ue-item\">\n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_placeholder elementor-animation-float\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/forgiveness-in-relationships-why-forgive-me-isnt-always-an-apology\/\" style=\"display:block;\">         \n          <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/forgive.png\"  src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/forgive.png\" alt=\"forgive\" width=\"3750\" height=\"3750\" alt=\"forgive\" title=\"forgive\"> \n        \t\n        <div class=\"ue_pos_carousel_image_overlay\"><\/div>\n      <\/a>          <\/div>  \n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content\" >\n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content_holder\">\n\n                \n          <div class=\"ue-grid-item-category\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/category\/blog\/relationship-crises\/\">Relationship Crises<\/a>\n          <\/div>        \t\n                           \n\n                  <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/forgiveness-in-relationships-why-forgive-me-isnt-always-an-apology\/\">            <div class=\"uc_post_title\">Forgiveness in Relationships: Why \"Forgive Me\" Isn't Always an Apology<\/div>\n          <\/a>                  \n\n        <div class=\"ue-meta-data\">\n                                          \n                                \n\n          \n          \n          \n                     \n\n            \n\n        <\/div>\n        <div class=\"uc_paragraph\" >What are we really asking when we say to our partner \"forgive me\"? About the difference...<\/div>\t\t      <\/div>\n          <\/div>    \n    \n<\/div>\n<div class=\"uc_image_carousel_container_holder uc_carousel_item ue-item\">\n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_placeholder elementor-animation-float\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/who-taught-you-thats-what-love-looks-like-7-sentences-that-can-transform-your-relationship\/\" style=\"display:block;\">         \n          <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/228.jpg\"  src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/228.jpg\" alt=\"228\" width=\"940\" height=\"940\" alt=\"228\" title=\"228\"> \n        \t\n        <div class=\"ue_pos_carousel_image_overlay\"><\/div>\n      <\/a>          <\/div>  \n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content\" >\n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content_holder\">\n\n                \n          <div class=\"ue-grid-item-category\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/category\/blog\/relationship-communication\/\">Relationship Communication<\/a>\n          <\/div>        \t\n                           \n\n                  <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/who-taught-you-thats-what-love-looks-like-7-sentences-that-can-transform-your-relationship\/\">            <div class=\"uc_post_title\">Who Taught You That's What Love Looks Like? 7 Sentences That Can Transform Your Relationship<\/div>\n          <\/a>                  \n\n        <div class=\"ue-meta-data\">\n                                          \n                                \n\n          \n          \n          \n                     \n\n            \n\n        <\/div>\n        <div class=\"uc_paragraph\" >We learn what love looks like long before our first relationship. Sometimes we continue...<\/div>\t\t      <\/div>\n          <\/div>    \n    \n<\/div>\n<div class=\"uc_image_carousel_container_holder uc_carousel_item ue-item\">\n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_placeholder elementor-animation-float\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/my-partner-cannot-be-the-family-i-never-had\/\" style=\"display:block;\">         \n          <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/75.png\"  src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/75.png\" alt=\"75\" width=\"2625\" height=\"2625\" alt=\"75\" title=\"75\"> \n        \t\n        <div class=\"ue_pos_carousel_image_overlay\"><\/div>\n      <\/a>          <\/div>  \n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content\" >\n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content_holder\">\n\n                \n          <div class=\"ue-grid-item-category\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/category\/blog\/family-constellations\/\">Family Constellations<\/a>\n          <\/div>        \t\n                           \n\n                  <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/my-partner-cannot-be-the-family-i-never-had\/\">            <div class=\"uc_post_title\">My partner cannot be the family I never had<\/div>\n          <\/a>                  \n\n        <div class=\"ue-meta-data\">\n                                          \n                                \n\n          \n          \n          \n                     \n\n            \n\n        <\/div>\n        <div class=\"uc_paragraph\" >A relationship without family support sometimes carries especially heavy weight. What...<\/div>\t\t      <\/div>\n          <\/div>    \n    \n<\/div>\n<div class=\"uc_image_carousel_container_holder uc_carousel_item ue-item\">\n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_placeholder elementor-animation-float\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/why-do-couples-who-love-each-other-deeply-start-to-feel-alone-next-to-one-another\/\" style=\"display:block;\">         \n          <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/133.jpg\"  src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/133.jpg\" alt=\"relationship-differences-couple\" width=\"940\" height=\"940\" alt=\"relationship-differences-couple\" title=\"relationship-differences-couple\"> \n        \t\n        <div class=\"ue_pos_carousel_image_overlay\"><\/div>\n      <\/a>          <\/div>  \n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content\" >\n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content_holder\">\n\n                \n          <div class=\"ue-grid-item-category\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/category\/blog\/relationship-differences\/\">Relationship Differences<\/a>\n          <\/div>        \t\n                           \n\n                  <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/why-do-couples-who-love-each-other-deeply-start-to-feel-alone-next-to-one-another\/\">            <div class=\"uc_post_title\">Differences in a Relationship: Why Couples Who Love Each Other Deeply Start to Feel Alone Side by Side<\/div>\n          <\/a>                  \n\n        <div class=\"ue-meta-data\">\n                                          \n                                \n\n          \n          \n          \n                     \n\n            \n\n        <\/div>\n        <div class=\"uc_paragraph\" >Differences in a relationship are not necessarily a sign that love has disappeared. The...<\/div>\t\t      <\/div>\n          <\/div>    \n    \n<\/div>\n<div class=\"uc_image_carousel_container_holder uc_carousel_item ue-item\">\n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_placeholder elementor-animation-float\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/between-the-safe-room-and-the-kitchen-existential-anxiety-during-war\/\" style=\"display:block;\">         \n          <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/cooking3.jpg\"  src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/cooking3.jpg\" alt=\"cooking3\" width=\"2250\" height=\"2250\" alt=\"cooking3\" title=\"cooking3\"> \n        \t\n        <div class=\"ue_pos_carousel_image_overlay\"><\/div>\n      <\/a>          <\/div>  \n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content\" >\n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content_holder\">\n\n                \n          <div class=\"ue-grid-item-category\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/category\/blog\/emotional-resilience\/\">Emotional Resilience<\/a>\n          <\/div>        \t\n                           \n\n                  <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/between-the-safe-room-and-the-kitchen-existential-anxiety-during-war\/\">            <div class=\"uc_post_title\">Between the Safe Room and the Kitchen: Existential Anxiety During War<\/div>\n          <\/a>                  \n\n        <div class=\"ue-meta-data\">\n                                          \n                                \n\n          \n          \n          \n                     \n\n            \n\n        <\/div>\n        <div class=\"uc_paragraph\" >I wrote \"Between the Safe Room and the Kitchen\" in real time, from inside the safe room....<\/div>\t\t      <\/div>\n          <\/div>    \n    \n<\/div>\n<div class=\"uc_image_carousel_container_holder uc_carousel_item ue-item\">\n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_placeholder elementor-animation-float\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/why-are-you-running-from-the-love-you-most-desire\/\" style=\"display:block;\">         \n          <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/143.png\"  src=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/12\/143.png\" alt=\"143\" width=\"940\" height=\"940\" alt=\"143\" title=\"143\"> \n        \t\n        <div class=\"ue_pos_carousel_image_overlay\"><\/div>\n      <\/a>          <\/div>  \n  \n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content\" >\n      <div class=\"uc_image_carousel_content_holder\">\n\n                \n          <div class=\"ue-grid-item-category\">\n            <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/category\/blog\/intimacy\/\">Intimacy<\/a>\n          <\/div>        \t\n                           \n\n                  <a href=\"https:\/\/sivanavni.com\/en\/why-are-you-running-from-the-love-you-most-desire\/\">            <div class=\"uc_post_title\">Why are you running from the love you most desire? 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<br>Let\u2019s start this journey together.<\/h4>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2dab30e5 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2dab30e5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInUp&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Let&#8217;s start with a brief introductory call, free of charge and commitment.<br>Sometimes, this small step changes everything.<br><strong>The sessions take place<\/strong><br><strong>online via Zoom \/ face-to-face in Tivon, according to your choice<\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6f844d87 e-con-full e-flex elementor-invisible e-con e-child\" data-id=\"6f844d87\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInUp&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2d0e1c2e elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"2d0e1c2e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-sm\" href=\"#elementor-action%3Aaction%3Dpopup%3Aopen%26settings%3DeyJpZCI6MzYxOSwidG9nZ2xlIjpmYWxzZX0%3D\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">For an introductory call<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How much of myself have I learned to leave behind to preserve a connection? 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